Zen Practice, Stress, and it’s better to deal with Human Beings

Ah, I feel so much better, the tempest in a teapot is over.

Fortunately I have had an ongoing cordial relationship with a woman at my bank for about 10 years. She has risen through the ranks a bit, but still remembers my name and greets me with it. When the issue arose with the underpayment of the mortgage, I went to see her, but she was busy. I then talked with another person who “didn’t know me from Adam,” and although she was generally helpful, not much was accomplished.

Today, I finally reached LeAnn via phone and she looked into the issue. She found that my lapse hadn’t been reported to a credit bureau yet, and suggested that I put a hold on the check I sent 3 days ago. She suggested I come to the branch and write another check that would be credited today. This would further insure that Chase bank did not report my “missed payment.” A report which would be difficult and possibly impossible to undue. Leah even waived the charge for stopping payment on the mailed check.

Such a good reminder to cultivate relationships whenever possible at your bank, or your lender, or your insurance company or any organization at which you do business. Find someone there, if possible, who feels simpatico. As Trungpa said, people have “basic goodness” (or we might say that people ARE basic goodness) and when dealing with someone they have some positive personal feeling for, it can appear and do us all a lot of good.

Big Thanks to LeAnn ( not her real name ) at Chase bank !

 

Zen Practice, Stress, and Dealing with Mindless Entities

I’ve been feeling particularly good for the last 10 days having just finished a 5 day retreat at the Zen Center of Portland.  However, my serene state was ruffled substantially yesterday by two situations in which I was confronted by mindless entities which considered me threatening. I, unfortunately, felt threatened in response. While a “perfect Buddha” might have a compassionate reaction to “mindless entities,”  my response has been much more self centered than that. Since Zen practice is all about Awareness, I can only experience the bodily tension, and notice the thoughts arising in response to the current situation, as best I can. Although thoughts and physical sensations are both “empty” they don’t feel that way right now, at 2 am on a Wednesday in May. I feel a sensation of tightness in my torso which I am not liking, and angry and hurt thoughts are racing. One of my least favorite situations are those in which I feel “wrongly accused.” Eventually “experiencing” these things will lead me to remember that there is no “me” and a moment of liberation will occur, but “I” am not there yet. I will definitely talk to my teacher, Larry Christensen soon, about this.

The first teacher I encountered yesterday was the bank that holds one of my mortgages. Last month, apparently while writing my mortgage payment, I had a “senior moment” and wrote them a check for $60 less than the amount I owed. I have no explanation for this. In response, the mindless “system” perceived me as a threat to the corporation, and counted my payment as a non-payment. Apparently, if you pay even 1 cent less than your mortgage payment, the mindless, intelligence-less computer system at these places decides that you have not made a payment at all. Consequently, even though I have not missed a mortgage payment since 1987, with a variety of companies, I was left dealing with 2 aggressive bank employees out to correct a miscreant (in this case me) who was avoiding paying them their due. In addition, my crime was reported after 30 days to a credit agency which would then apparently downgrade my credit score, and make my future dealings with banks more difficult and costly. Suddenly, because of what was essentially a “typo” I have been branded as someone who has missed a mortgage payment. Unfortunately, I took this quite personally.

The second teacher I encountered yesterday was a snarling Doberman Pinscher who was apparently very threatened by the fact that I happened to be walking past her yard. My usual response to a dog like this is fantasies of shooting them with a .22 pistol. I have never owned a .22 pistol, but when I was young I did go hunting with my Father and Brother, and when confronted by a snarling beast I often mentally reach for a gun which exists only in my mind. This very compassion-less response is somewhat embarrassing to a long time practitioner, but, I think we all need to be honest about who we are, acknowledging what arises, particularly if it is something we would rather not admit. Joko Beck often reminded us to be honest with ourselves.

Yesterday, I noticed that the dog seemed even more upset if I looked it in the eye, so I paused for a moment to experience the fear and anger from my side of a more than adequate chain-link fence. There was a moment of compassion for the dog and, it’s state, as we faced each other.  The snarling never lessened, and I found myself thinking, “Why ? Why ? Why ?” I got no answer, but just thinking of it now, 12 hours later, there is a feeling of nausea. The answer, if there is one, lies inside that feeling, I know.

In conclusion I can only say that dealing with mindless entities is confusing and frustrating, and we may as well acknowledge that. We can only experience the self centered response we have to these beasts as best we can with full faith that these teachers shine a light on our sometimes hidden self-clinging in a particularly acute way. A soft caring attitude towards our small selves can only help us see our way into the light. When we forgive ourselves for being just who we are, right now, seeing our own intrinsic innocence, a door can open into more liberation and compassion.